About the work

Is this for you?

This is usually helpful if most of these feel true:

  • You’re doing fine on paper, but inside it feels thin.

  • You’re still putting in effort, but it doesn’t calm anything anymore.

  • You’ve tried improving strategy, habits, or mindset, and it hasn’t really helped.

  • You’re not lost, just tired of propping something up that isn’t working.

  • Slowing down feels risky, but pushing forward feels dishonest.

If you’re nodding, the issue is often not discipline, intelligence, or motivation. It’s that your energy is going into something that can’t give you what you’re asking from it.

If none of this lands, great. That usually means the timing isn’t right.

What you get out of it

You won’t get a plan, a new identity, or a pep talk.

What people usually get back is capacity.

When you stop spending energy holding together something that no longer fits, a few practical things tend to happen:

  • Less mental noise

  • Fewer decisions, made more cleanly

  • Less pressure to prove yourself

  • More tolerance for uncertainty

  • More energy at the end of the day

  • A calmer relationship to success and failure

Life doesn’t suddenly get easy.
It just gets less taxing.

That alone is often a relief.

What the process is like

  • Short-term and focused

  • Direct conversations about what you’re actually doing

  • Clear attention on what it costs you to keep doing it

  • No pressure to replace anything right away

We work until things are clear enough for you to move on without forcing yourself.

When it’s not a good fit

This probably isn’t useful if:

  • You’re excited about your current direction

  • You want motivation, reassurance, or accountability

  • You’re looking to optimize or execute an existing plan

  • You want ongoing support or a long-term container

Nothing wrong with any of that. It just points elsewhere.

What this isn’t

To save time, here’s what not to expect:

  • Goal setting or motivation

  • Therapy or emotional processing

  • Business strategy or optimization

  • Identity work or personal branding

  • Inspiration about a future version of you

If you want help making something work better, this likely isn’t it.

How to recognize where you are

These eras describe common ways people experience life when what used to work stops providing relief. They’re here to help you recognize where you are so you’re not trying solutions that don’t fit your situation.

Era: Pre-Collapse

You’re likely here if most of this feels true:

  • Life mostly works, even if it’s demanding

  • You feel capable and responsible in your roles

  • Work, achievement, or being needed gives you a sense of direction

  • Progress still brings reassurance

  • Tension feels like the normal cost of adulthood

  • You don’t feel compelled to question your overall direction

This phase can last a long time and often looks successful from the outside.

Era: Active Collapse

You’re likely here if several of these resonate:

  • Success no longer satisfies in the way it used to

  • Progress doesn’t settle your system

  • Daily life feels heavier without a clear reason

  • Decisions take more out of you than they should

  • Pushing harder doesn’t help anymore

  • You’re functioning, but something feels off

  • Pretending you know where this is going feels strained

This is often experienced privately, even when life still looks fine to others.

Era: Post-Collapse

You’re likely here if many of these feel true:

  • You feel less pressure to prove or justify yourself

  • Fewer things feel urgent, even if life is still full

  • Decisions feel simpler and cleaner

  • You relate to work and roles with less demand

  • Other people’s opinions carry less weight

  • Energy feels steadier without forcing motivation

Life doesn’t become easier, but it becomes less internally expensive.